A girl shared how her boyfriend proposed to her with his grandmother’s engagement ring that was a family heirloom.
Here is the story:
“Hello, I’m not quite sure how to summarize this best, but, I hate my engagement ring.
My fiancé and I met when I was 19 and he 21, and have been together ever since. We’ve had our disagreements but for the most part our relationship is harmonious.
The problems began with covid, I suppose. My bf was raised in large part by his grandparents and loved his grandma more than anyone (no complaints from me, she was an amazing woman).
She passed away abruptly, though, in 2021 and left everything to her only grandson.
It was a decent sum of money and allowed us to take more time off during the pandemic to be with each other and out of harms way, but most importantly she left him a family heirloom- her mother’s (and hers) engagement ring which I had never knew about.
My bf and I have been talking of getting married for a long time, and have picked out a Pinterest board FULL of ideas which he knew about and had access to.
He’s known that my dream engagement ring was a simple, thin, silver band with rubies, and that I never wear gold jewelry.
He proposed to me over New Year, while all of his family were there, and while I was initially thrilled at the proposal as soon as I saw the ring part of me withered.
But by that point his mom was crying and aunts and uncles were congratulating us. So I put it on, and vowed to talk about it later.
But I can’t seem to find the right time! Every time i mention the ring, he brings up how much it meant to his grandma and how he misses her, so it never feels right to blurt out that I hate it.
It’s not a minor issue, either, the ring is heavy, gold, the size of my knuckle, with (in my opinion) gaudy diamonds and other gems.
I don’t want to seem ungrateful but I just find it so very very ugly. What do I do?? Any advice helps <3″