My boyfriend and I broke up over the weekend a couple of months ago. We were together for 2.5 years and had lived together for about 2 of those years. He moved out on Nov. 2, but not all of his belongings were able to fit in his car. He was planning on gathering the rest of his things a few days later. But before then, I had decided to cut off contact with him, and before I did so, I had called him to tell him that he needed to get the rest of his things that weekend while I was away. He agreed to do so. Whenever I came back home, I was annoyed and not surprised to see his things were still at my house. So, I waited a couple of weeks to see if he would make an effort to try and get the rest of his belongings, but I heard nothing. I figured he must not have wanted everything else and decided to donate them to the charity.
Today (nearly 4 months post-breakup) I received a text from my ex’s mom asking if I would be home this weekend so he could come and get his things and for me to call him. His mother reached out to me because I have my ex’s number and all social media accounts blocked. I haven’t responded just yet as I am at a loss on what to say. He had his chance to get the rest of his things and he dropped the ball. Am I a bad person for donating everything else after he said he would and never did?
Here are what netizens think:
- You gave him one phone call and one opportunity before blocking him on all forms of social. How, exactly, did you expect him to get the stuff? Did you expect him to just show up at your apartment unannounced? You needed to warn him before you donated all his things instead of just doing it because you didn’t hear from him
- Wait but she cut contact and blocked him so if there was a reason he couldn’t she didn’t give him any avenues to inform her? AND changed the locks?? Like I can understand if she put the things in a box in a semi secure location and asked him to grab it. That way she could have her space and not see him but get his stuff back to him.
- I wouldn’t keep my locks the same for 4 freaking months if an ex still had the keys.
- She doesn’t owe him anything other than thirty days. It’s been four months. If his mother could contact her now he could’ve contacted her earlier as well. Locks need to be changed since he no longer lived there and she gave him the opportunity to get his things.