Husband is treating me like glass in bed…
Hello everyone, I am a 24-year-old woman who recently got married to my husband two weeks ago. He’s 31, and our marriage was arranged by our parents and family.
Anyway, our wedding night was almost 2 weeks ago, and being virgins and never having experienced any physical intimate activities, we decided to consummate our marriage on our wedding night.
We slept together for the first time, and honestly, we were both nervous and experienced some awkwardness.
However, it was mostly a very loving experience. He was sweet, kind, gentle, calm, and patient, and I felt very comfortable and safe.
Since our wedding night, we’ve been doing it every morning and every night, sometimes even three times a day.
Every time we do it, my husband keeps asking me if I’m OK every five seconds during intercourse when he’s on top of me.
While I love it and feel flattered, and I’m already in love with my man, it’s really annoying and driving me crazy. I’m not a snowflake, so I’m wondering if others do this, especially when a relationship or marriage is new.
I don’t want to tell him that I’m annoyed by this, as I’m pretty sure he would understand. However, I don’t want to hurt his feelings because I know he loves me.
Honestly, the way he cuddles me and holds me in his arms after we finish having sex is the best part. I know I’ve only been married to him for roughly 2 weeks, but I’m already in love with him and can’t wait to have beautiful babies
Netizens’ comments
- Explain that you are not a fragile woman, that you promise to tell him if he does something that does not feel good, and otherwise he can assume you are enjoying yourself.
Tell him you totally love being held after too. And perhaps you can both promise that you will try to guide each other to be the best lovers for each other that you can by being honest and authentic, never pretending. - It’s great that he’s checking in with you and you’re having these conversations. It’s also great that you’re enjoying this quickly in an arranged marriage. I’d just talk to him. “I’ll let you know if something doesn’t feel good or hurts. But so far everything has been great and I’d like us both to try and relax and enjoy the experience.” He’s probably just nervous since this is all new for him as well.