I recently matched with this girl on a dating app and she asked me for my height. I asked why and she said she doesn’t like to date short guys. So I told her my height (average) and followed up by asking whats her weight, and she got offended and went on rambling on why weight shouldn’t matter and how I am sexist etc etc..
Personally, I am fine with anyone picking their partners based on their traits they want however superficial it may be. But I can’t see why many people are blind to such double standards.
I feel that if it’s justified for a girl to choose a guy based on height, then it should also be justified for a guy to choose a girl based on weight (or size).
Many girls will now bring up the point of heels…wanting ppl not to think he’s her little brother…wanting him to be able to sweep her off her feet etc. But why are those acceptable reasons but when a guy says he doesn’t want her to have thicker arms or thighs than him or wants to be able to lift her up without breaking his back regarded as offensive or chauvinistic?
As a FoS student I understand the biological inherent attraction toward taller men due to subconscious genetic preference, like seeking partners with better fitness and health, the same can be said for men’s attraction toward slim women with healthy weights or sizes. If nature doesn’t have this double standard then why do we practice it?
Unlike height, weight can be changed (in most cases), through lifestyle, proper nutrition and some discipline. But it is much harder for someone to change his height. So to me it seems more unfair to expect someone to be tall than expect someone to not be fat? (controversial)
Whether its fat or height shaming, its all bad of course, its superficial. But honestly who cares, its every individual’s choice. If you dont wanna pick someone cus the person is short or fat that is up to you. But please consider your own double standards before imposing your expectations on others
Source: Nuswhisper