my bf has been ldr for almost 2 years. We are currently meeting irl for the 4th time. He has come to visit me for 2 weeks.
My parents wanted to meet up for a few hours a total of 2 times over his visit. We had dinner and spent the night. The second was to go bowling and have dinner. Both times it is like pulling teeth to get him to spend time with my family for like tops 3-4 hours. These short visits with my family mean a lot to them.
Prior to him coming I told him about the new year’s eve plans and he said he was gonna just go to sleep immediately after he got to my parent’s house. After much convincing, he stayed up until midnight and then went to sleep.
The night before we were supposed to go bowling and out to dinner he told me he didn’t wanna go and that he was gonna text them that. This upset me because I know their feelings would be hurt and it makes me feel like he doesn’t like them. I cried because of this and he changed his mind.
Once we went bowling he purposely got longkang balls so he can sit down and play on his phone again or stare into space. He told me he was bored and wanted to go back to rest. This kinda killed my mood for the night.
Besides these two times, it has been just us hanging out and doing whatever we want. I just don’t understand why it has to be so difficult to take time for them just once or twice.
How do I address this?
Here is what netizens say:
is this really the kind of guy you want to call your boyfriend? I might consider reevaluating the relationship if I were you.
Have you considered that the activities you guys were doing is not of his interest and probably nothing to do with your family?
Maybe he just don’t care and busy texting other girls lo