I M32 am the sole income earner in our household and my wife is a housewife (she had a job but could no longer keep it due to health problems). We have a year daughter at home as well.
Ever since I started working from home my wife started treating me as if I was available to do whatever she needed me to do like fix this fix that, do laundry and etc. But I work long hours from home and I need to be committed and professional otherwise I’d risk losing my position.
She interrupted my work several times already. I had a conversation with her about it and asked that she stop asking me to do things until I’m done working and she said okay but it happened again days ago when she barged into my office with our daughter all of a sudden telling me to keep an eye on her while she visits the clinic.
I paused my work session because I was caught off guard she didn’t tell me beforehand. She said that she suddenly started feeling pain in her belly and needed to see the doctor asap. I explained that I had important work and could not stay with our daughter or keep her in the office while working. She said she won’t be long but I urged her to call her sister and let her come stay with our daughter. In my opinion, this seemed to be the one reasonable solution for both of us but she lashed out at me saying no because this was an emergency while my work could wait. She said she had no time to wait till her sister come over but I said I’d call her myself and tell her to come. I even suggested I pay here and all my wife had to do was wait a few minutes till her sister arrived.
She stormed out of the office with our daughter after calling me a selfish jerk with no empathy to keep her waiting longer before visiting the doctor. My sister-in-law came some 20 minutes later and my wife left then. I tried calling her to check on her but she purposely hung up on me a few times and when she got home she was still pretty pissed at me which I don’t get because I think that I provided a solution that allowed her to go to her dr appointment and allowed me to resume my work session but no.
She kept talking about what a horrible partner and father I was to refuse to provide help when she needed it and refused to sympathize with her difficult situation and making her wait for her sister when she needed to see the doctor asap. She’s now refusing to speak to me altogether. I think my compromise was reasonable, I don’t really get why she got so mad over it.
Here is what netizens think:
- If her stomach pain was so serious, how the F she got the energy to argue with you. Sounds more like she is making a scene and being dramatic.
- The problem is wife has been crying wolf. The end result is that when she may have really needed him, he thought it was more of the same.
- I agree, providing it genuinely was an emergency. If that were the case, he ought to step up even if he wasn’t working at home.
- Good luck for the rest of your marriage, you got a drama queen as a wife.