I am in my 30s, I’ve been working on my online dating profile recently, and common advice is to include a photo of yourself with friends. It makes sense, but it’s hard to do when you don’t have either.
I’ve lived the last decade without really having any friends. It wasn’t intentional, but it’s just kind of happened. I’ve lost touch with all my friends from school, and since then everyone I have met has been through work. I have great relationships with a few colleagues, but at the same time they are not really interested in hanging out outside of work (they are older and have families anyway). And none of my interests or hobbies really require interacting with other people.
I feel my need for social interaction is fulfilled by my family and work friends. This doesn’t bother me. But I am concerned that it will be perceived as strange or a red flag. Obviously the solution is to make some friends. But I feel like if it doesn’t authentically happen, then it’s kind of pointless. I also don’t want to just use people. Or maybe I’m making too big of a deal about this?
Does this describe anyone else?.
Here are what netizens think:
- I’m in the same boat, but I consider myself a little bit weird. I wouldn’t look at it as a red flag if the person I was dating didn’t have friends only because I understand what it’s like.
- most peoples profiles look like they havent spent a day of their lives inside, and I dont know about you but thats a turn off to me, I LOVE my ocassional down time haha. If you do manage to get pictures with some friends/coworkers/strangers make sure its obvious which one is you. I’ve been excited about a couple profile only to find out 3/4 pictures in that she was the comparatively unattractive one in her pictures.