Did I fail as a man?
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We are married for close to three years now and my wife told me she wasn’t getting satisfaction in bed with me. I have been trying hard since this is not the first time we have had this conversation.
She has previously as well, and now with reinforced confidence stated an alternative to this situation by opening our marriage to get her urges fulfilled elsewhere by other people.
Even though I am unopposed to the idea of third or perhaps fourth wheel I somewhat blame myself for this situation.
Netizens’ comments
- Does she already have a specific person in mind?
- Has she given you any specifics on things she’d like you to change/improve on? Cause if she hasn’t, I don’t know how you’re supposed to just guess.
You haven’t “failed as a man”, imo. You seem kind, giving and willing to learn and please, and that’s everything anyone can ask or hope for. I’ve had a variety of partners, and the best ones were never the ones that boasted about how awesome and experienced they are, it was the ones that simply paid attention to my feedbacks! - Not really bro. It’s nowhere written that as a “man”, you need to be a King Kong in bed. Every person has a different meaning of satisfaction and it’s majorly solved by communication. You can say you failed as a partner, maybe? Because this feels more like a communication issue than a masculinity issue.
But again, a lot of it depends on how your wife is in the communication part and if she has unrealistic expectations from you or if she’s actually interested in you! - “Fail as a man”? Probably not— you may have failed as a partner. Has she communicated what she would like from you to bring her satisfaction and have you made an earnest attempt at doing those things if they don’t cross boundaries?