So this happened a few days ago.
My ( 35F) MIL is extremely religious. The first time I met her she waited till her son ( My now husband, 32M) was in the bathroom to say that I wasn’t right for her son as I was of a different faith
Its been years of jabs at me. Telling DH not to marry me the week of the wedding because he deserves to be with someone like him, of faith.
Here’s the thing, he’s not the same faith as her. She just can’t get over it.
So on to a few days ago. Our nearly 5yo daughter has multiple diagnoses and potential Brain Damage that we are looking into. She struggles with emotional regulation and can lash out. She also targets her 2yo sister and can scream for days. We are struggling. Badly.
MIL asked DH about our daughter and he responds with how we are struggling and really feeling overwhelmed etc.
Now one might expect a comforting msg back from a parent. Offers of help or a ear to listen.
Nope.
He got a massive msg back saying our daughter was possessed. And that we had to turn to god and perform an exorcism on her. Oh but not to do around me because I’m an unbeliever and that’s an inhibitor. She said that someone had done witchcraft, and talked absolute RUBBISH. It was bad. ( now I wonder if she is mentally ok).
I was SHAKING in anger. DH and I both agreed no contact as he admitted that his Mum would probably try to exorcise our daughter if she had a chance.
So we both composed messages back, I finally got to say everything I ever wanted to say and it felt GLORIOUS. Even said if she goes and tells DH’s sisters about how mean I’ve been then I’m happy to show them MIL messages. And what she feels about her DISABLED granddaughter.
And we both told her we don’t want to see her anymore.
She replied back. Mine was denial that she said it was possession, but merely meant OPPRESSION. Didn’t deny anything else. That was it.
DH got a lengthy one saying the same as mine, guilt tripping him and general crap. Ending in FIL has covid and is VERY sick. Nice try manipulator.
I’ve been really angry about it. Blocked MIL on everything. I did an insta post and FB story to vent. DH sisters and family have seen but haven’t said anything. I think they know how bad this is.
So yea, still so angry. Burning bridges and it feels good.
101 on how to completely mess up your relationship with your son and DIL.