My husband chooses adult videos over me, should I leave?
It’s not the first time I make a post about this topic, I guess I just need to vent and have no one to talk about it.
I 34F have been married for 2 and a half years, we were intimate 3 times right after the wedding and after that my husband never touched me again.
I have tried everything, but I’m always rejected. 10 months into the marriage I found out about his addiction, he’s not even interested in the real thing and watches it around 2 hours a day.
He’s obsessed with trans content and I don’t know what to think anymore, I have begged him to seek professional help but he refuses to do it and keep promising to “fix himself”.
Our intimate life is nonexistent, and this situation has taken a toll on my mental health and self-esteem, I have always been considered attractive but I don’t even feel a woman anymore.
After a huge argument, he didn’t watch it for 2 weeks (I was starting to feel hopeful) but last night he spent 1 hour watching trans videos again, and today I can’t stop crying, getting married was my dream, I resigned from my job for him… I feel such a loser and defeated
I’m thinking about leaving in May, I can’t force him to quit his addiction and seek professional help, but I feel devastated, I don’t want to go through a divorce, I don’t want to leave him, but how can I stay with a man who has no respect for me?
Netizen’s comments
Fixing your marriage requires effort from both people, you cannot be expected to carry an entire marriage while your husband does his thing.
You also cannot force him to get help, see that he needs it in the first place or get better.
What you can and should do is put YOUR mental and emotional health and physical needs first. If he isn’t making those better…find someone who will.
Sucks to hear but the truth is, this marriage isn’t gonna last. Resign yourself to that, leave in May, and work on healing and finding someone worth your efforts.
But also, maybe set up a boundary with your next partner and if they break it….leave. Don’t settle for less than you deserve