Partner is angry bc of my night owl schedule/wants me to move out.
I’ve been with my man for 6 years. We’ve had ups and downs, but it’s the most loving partnership I’ve ever had.
I started a job in hospitality recently that requires me to work late (until about 1 am), and then I’m usually so wired after work that I need a little time to decompress. I’ve also befriended some amazing lady coworkers that I love to chat and laugh with until the early morning hours at one of their apartments. I don’t drink, so we literally just eat ice cream and look at stupid TikToks.
My boyfriend is very upset about my new hours and claims he can’t sleep when I’m out super late, even though when I come home he’s snoring peacefully. I feel like he’s just trying to control me, and I don’t like it. He feels like I’m disrespecting him because he can’t get good sleep while I’m out.
To be clear, I only stay out like this once every 2 weeks. This is an occasional situation. After coming home early this morning, he told me he wants me to move out. “This schedule isn’t working for me.”
He doesn’t even seem to want to talk about it. I am baffled, annoyed , and frankly angry because I feel like it’s just another tactic to control me. It seems ridiculous. He can’t afford our apartment without me, but he wants to make all the rules.
Can someone please help me understand where he’s coming from so I can try to approach him with compassion and conciliation? I’m too angry to see the bigger picture here.