i know i look good without makeup. i sometimes go makeup-free and i feel just as pretty when i wear makeup. but i have acne and i only do that when i dont have bulging bumps all over my face. he knows im insecure about that so i think he says this as a way to help, but he says this every single time he sees me with makeup. he likes to put his hand on my face and wipe it off and i freak out because he’s putting germs on my face and also making my cystic acne show. i really dont know how to make him stop without being rude.
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ive told him that i dont like when he does this, but i know he thinks he’s helping so he does it again.
Here are what netizens think:
- Tell him you appreciate the compliment, but that you like how you look both ways and it’s not necessary to bring it up.
- This is a “doing bad by trying to be good” thing. Just be honest with him and tell him how you feel, just don’t do it in a way that might make him feel attacked for his past behavior, as I have an inkling he just doesn’t understand entirely. Make up to a man is often shown or advertised as “she’s trying to be beautiful” It took me quite a few years myself to begin to see it as an accessory, rather than whatever else I saw it as, for lack of a better word. He appreciates your natural beauty, he just doesn’t know you’re trying to accessorize or compliment that with some makeup.
- I had an ex try to get me to stop wearing make up, he turned out to be a huge control freak and jealous bordering on paranoia, he thought I wore make up to attract/impress other men (?). It then got to my clothes, he tries to control what I wore and make my style more ‚modest‘, while pretending to help me elevate my natural beauty. He got super mad when I told him to knock it off. It was all just controlling and abusive bullshit, which I think is happening here. Wiping off her make up because he doesn’t her to wear any is no different than ripping off her clothes because he doesn’t like them.