My gf is delusional about how good she is in bed. It’s awful.
My (30 m) and (29 gf) have been together about 2 years. To cut to the chase, I’ve always been the type of guy to address anything that’s bothering me/ always trying to find a way to work on something that’s not right.
She’s always been more resistant to talking about hard topics so I try to be as sensitive as I can. I’ve been getting frustrated with being the only one putting the work in recently.
I have a fairly active history in bed. I’m no wiz but I think I’m attentive, capable and usually a decent partner in bed. I’ve had numerous relationships with good experiences in bed, and partners who have given me some reassurance. I try my best to make sure my partner is satisfied from head to toe.
My gf is a complete starfish. Rarely shows initiative, rarely is the doer in any position and very rarely performs any kind of non-PIV activity that would be for my pleasure (ie bjs). She usually just lies there while I kiss her, go down in her, put her in a couple positions etc. she’ll usually finish once or twice.
More times than a few I’ve been in a room and overheard her and her gf’s chatting where she talks up her game in bed. How “my man is well taken care of”.
How she can ride this and throw that. Which i have to play on to in public for her sake. But I’ve tried to address it a million times in every way I now how to.
She just doesn’t know what to do or doesn’t want to or is delusional and thinks she’s doing something.
I love her but damn. Even the worst partner I’ve had put in more effort. I’m mad because I don’t know if she can and won’t. Or she can’t and doesn’t how to.