My husband (29M) tells me stupid lies (29F). Would you leave over something so silly?
My husband of 7 years (14 years together) is constantly telling little white lies. I asked him about three days ago to never lie to me again, especially about stupid stuff bc I can’t trust him if he does. That I can never know when he’s being serious bc he’s always telling small lies.
I just found out he lied to me again. A STUPID lie.
We went shopping 2 days ago. Yesterday he makes me a snack with something I swore we hadn’t bought. I ask him when he got it, and he said during our shopping trip.
I say that I don’t remember scanning it (self-checkout), and he responded with “maybe I did, I don’t know.” I was left doubting myself bc he wasn’t really scanning, and I didn’t remember scanning it.
I assumed he was telling the truth and I must have scanned it and don’t remember. I almost felt crazy.
Tonight I find a receipt that had been thrown away and fallen next to the bin. I look at it wondering the price of something else we bought, when I look I realize it’s a receipt I didn’t recognize from the same store.
It included the snack he served me and some other random items. I look at the dates and it was a day after our shopping trip (yesterday) in the morning before work.
I just walked into the room and confronted him. He was asleep, but I was beyond upset, sad, disappointed, and hurt. I straight up asked why he lied to me, especially after our talk about not lying.
At first he denied it, but finally fessed up. He said he thought I’d be mad if I knew he bought it which I don’t get bc he didn’t hide the item, just tried to play it off as if we had decided to buy it. I wasn’t mad when I saw it, just trying to figure out how and when.
I just don’t know what to do about these stupid lies. He’s lost my trust. I don’t think he’d lie about big stuff, but now I don’t know honestly. It sounds dumb to leave over this, but idk what to do.