Getting into an argument because my gf refuses to stop wearing my clothes?
To start things off I’m completely fine with my girlfriend wearing my clothes every once in a while.
Recently though, she started wearing them all the time. I’m not just talking Hoodies and Sweatshirts, but joggers, sweatpants, T-Shirts, Jackets, even socks and Boxers.
I told her she could just buy herself clothes from the men’s section since that’s not uncommon for women to do, but she doesn’t want to.
She wants specifically mine. Now of course this is annoying to me, because whenever I want to wear my favorite clothes they’re not in my closet and instead either in the wash or she’s wearing them.
Today I decided I had enough when she put on my work pants and spilled Mountain Dew on them. I told her either she buys me new ones, or she stops wearing my damn clothes.
She didn’t want to buy new ones and thinks I should just accept that this is how relationships work. I told her to f- off and went to stay at my buddy’s place.
Now in the aftermath I’m thinking I may have overreacted.
Netizens’ comments
- she is repeatedly crossing your boundary, and taking shit that isn’t hers. That’s how toxic relationships work, not healthy ones
- Your girlfriend seems to believe that people in relationships aren’t allowed to have boundaries. If you have a boundary that your clothing is only for you, that is absolutely valid.
It’s fine to share clothes when both parties agree to it. She’s the one in the wrong for deciding that you must share your clothes, even though you’ve said you’re not ok with it. - I’ve never raided my partner’s closet so no, that’s not ‘just how relationships are’ but it’s how she wants it to be. Unfortunately for her, her partner is not feeling it which means that she can’t have that. And I get sweat shirts & tees, but your socks, underwear, and work pants? That’s just ridiculous.
- If normal clothes I still can understand, but why the f would she need to wear your underwear for bro…
- It sounds like she’s doing it to be close to you, which is only cute if she cares for them as if they were her own (wash and return to the shelf or closet where they belong) and if she asks you first (because they’re yours, you should have first dibs on them for any given day). She is wrong about how relationships work, but that doesn’t even matter if it doesn’t work for you in your relationship.