XMM GOING OVERSEAS TO STUDY BUT BF IN NS – SCARED OF THE LEGENDARY “NS CURSE”

i (18F) am planning to go to uni overseas after poly while my 18M bf will be serving NS around the same time.

i told him about my plans of going overseas and it made him very (understandably) worried, that i’m gonna cheat on him, talk to other guys, party etc

i feel really bad because i feel like i haven’t done well enough as a gf to reassure him that i’m not gonna cheat. i know i’m not going to cheat because i really do love my bf a lot and i see us getting married so logically i wouldn’t do anything to jeopardise our rs.

as for talking to other guys, that’s inevitable but i definitely wouldn’t carry on the convo if not needed (he’s aware i’m that kind of person).

i’m also not a party/club/drinking person and he knows. so i don’t know how else to assure him

he’s also rly worried about LDR, which ofc i understand it’s gonna be tough considering the time diff + him being in NS but to me if we are THAT srs about each other and truly love each other, we’d get thru anything and one would be willing to wait/do smt for the other.

i was quite set on going to uni and was really planning to work my ass off for it, but now i’m having second thoughts because it feels selfish. in a way i’m just kinda doing wtv i want while he’s in mandatory NS stuck with the thoughts and worries of me cheating.

anyone been in the same situation? please advise and share ur experiences

Netizens’ comments

1. My teacher told me a simple analogy years ago.
   Keeping a bird in a cage and if you let it go, it will be gone forever. But you allow freedom and instill trust with the pet bird, the bird can roam freely outside it’s cage but yet come back to you again.
   If there’s any doubt of trust, let it be that way. Pursure your dream and be the better form of yourself. Do not allow others to take away your goals.
2. Dear, you are 18. The world is your playground. You can afford to study overseas, go for it. No brainer. It is not selfish to get an education and life experience and see that the world is bigger than what we think. Feelings come and go. Are you absolutely sure that if you stay, your bf will not cheat or break up with you? People change. Maybe you both are really young, but if your bf loves you, he’d want the best for you and continue to level up so he can be the best version of himself, too when you both are done with the process, him in NS, and you uni.
3. Don’t let your relationship get in the way of your career or academic advancement.
   If someone wants to cheat, he/she can do it anywhere/anytime. You don’t need to be in a LDR to cheat.
   This is a good opportunity to put your relationship to the test. If it works out, you 2 can overcome other bigger challenges in life. If it doesn’t, then the 2 of you are just not meant to be.
   Just go.