A guy from Tinder invited me to a nice cocktail bar. I usually don’t agree to drink alcohol on the first date, but the guy was my type looks wise, and he gave out very cool, chill vibes over text.
The date started off great – he was smooth, fun, lead the conversation and I felt like we had great chemistry. We clicked immediately with our ironic, “f-ed up” sense of humor.
As the evening went on and we had few drinks in us, our conversation became more adult oriented and we started to talk about kinkier stuff (in a fun, playful manner)
At one point we started talking about the guys sizes (he brought it up) and he made a remark along the line of: “You look like a size queen”, I laughingly replied:”What?! No, I do not discriminate haha” and than tried to make a joke: “unless it’s a micro of course, then you’re f-ed hahaha”.
I said it as a dumb, silly joke, and it matched the vibe of our conversation, but I immediately saw his energy shift, it was like I ruined the whole atmosphere.
There was an awkward silence for a moment, he then changed subjects and pretty much started having meaningless, unengaged small talk with me, any of my attempts to steer the conversation back on “the fun train” were ignored.
At that moment I jut felt clueless about wtf had just happened. He also had made silly, insensitive jokes about women’s bodies and other so called taboo subjects. My dumb remark definitely was within the context of the conversation. Plus, I had said more f-ed up jokes before that and he laughed.
Looking back in hindsight, when he made that “size queen” comment, he was definitely fishing for something. There was some tension coming from him in that moment, but I did not pick up on it at the time.
So yeah, after another 30min or so of awkward conversation he said he needs to wake up early tomorrow and it’s time to call it a night. He did not try to kiss me or suggest coming to his place, we just parted ways and I was left mind f-ed. Did not hear from him again.
Obviously I do not really know whether he actually had a micro p-s, but him bringing up the size subject, then getting upset after I made that joke (even though up until that point everything was going great) makes me assume that.
It’s a real shame, I liked the guy and feel bad that I made him feel insecure (assuming my theory is correct). But who knows, maybe he actually did not like me and was looking for a way out to end the night, but that seems highly unlikely.