XMM HAS DADDY ISSUES, EXCITED & TURNED ON BY MEN IN THEIR 40s “DISHING OUT” TO HER

I’m an 18(F) dealing with some daddy issues, and usually, I manage to steer clear of the typical ‘traits’ associated with it.

However, things got a bit trickier since turning 18 and never having a boyfriend (I’m becoming a little more desperate).

Let me lay out the situation: I’ve got a thing for guys between 30 and early 40s, love pet names like ‘daddy’ or ‘good girl,’ and find the idea of an older dude dishing out some punishment kind of exciting.

Not only that, but aside from liking men twice my age, I also find men my age just… not attractive at all. It might be a bit weird, but personally, I don’t see it as a big deal.

Or well, that was until about a month ago. After aching to tell my friends for years about this, I finally spilled the beans with the disguise ‘as a joke,’ but they didn’t take it that way because I could be used for my short height and baby face.

Any advice…?

Netizens’ comments

1. First of all, you’re 18 and you realized your issue. Congrats, some people realize it way later in their lives. Start your healing journey, go to therapy, read a lot.
   It’s a long process and you will experience some unhealthy relationships unfortunately but never stop questioning yourself and look at every experience as what you can learn out of it.
2. I’m a bit more than twice your age and often targetted by people your age.
   The only thing an 18 year old girl and 40 y.o. dude have in common is wanting to get laid. You are a child compared to me and if someone my age is pursuing you then that’s a red flag.
   Wait until you are older and the development difference isn’t so big or date someone younger
3. I’m in my late twenties and looking back, men over twice your age especially when you are under 25 will give you more than just daddy issues.
   Most of those older men will ruin you psychologically in the long term.
4. Some people here are pretty alarmist when it comes to age gap relationships, so I’ll offer some advice that’s actually helpful.
   You shouldn’t get into a committed relationship with someone that much older at your age. The chances that they aren’t just using you temporarily are slim to none.
   But if you want a short-term fling, there’s no reason why that cant work out. But decide what you want first and approach it with clear intentions.
   Basically, decide what you want and tell him that and don’t let it deviate. If at some point you start feeling attachment and desire commitment from him, just end it.
5. Oh girllll. I’m 27 now but since the age of 18 I have had relationships with men aged between 40-50 with my last one causing quite a bit of damage and ending September of 2021. I’ve been in therapy for 2 years dealing with my attachment issues.
   I implore you not to make the same poor decisions I did.