I’m in my late 20s, finally walked out from a pretty depressing situation. To summarise, I was left hanging by this guy whom I’ve met through tinder – 6 months, and reconnected a few years after. We separated as he was only early months into army, he didn’t want commitment or let anyone else knew he was attached. Thereafter, we reconnected again and we both said nothing, it was silent but acted as though we were a couple. He puts his career first and likewise, didn’t want to commit but enjoying all the benefits, thoughtfulness and sweetness I would bring to him.
Just like this, I fell into depression after ending a relationship which never started – silenced for one year falling deeper and deeper for him. He knew I had feelings for him but watched me falling in love with him, without telling me to stop. However, as years past it just takes that one brave moment to turn away from him when all red flags were clear and seen.
It saddens me how the bad people live a good life (he is in the sales industry and earns nearly half a million income) while i’m everyday working 9-5 just to lead a stable life. Life is so unfair, just because he’s rich he gets away from the wrongdoings and living a good life than many others who are more deserving and down to earth.
Why is it the nice always suffers, the bad always wins?
Here are what netizens think:
- Finding and recognizing good characters for a relationship is not something you can just master easily. Some people use a lifetime to find that one person, while some are lucky because they are more attune to certain characters. Don’t judge the whole world simply because you’ve had one bad relationship or you’ve heard or read bad stories. There are many good stories out there and I believe far more than the bad ones, just that human beings are naturally attracted to drama (hence we have groups like this one) so we remember them better. The nice do not suffer unless they were nice with a condition. The bad do not always win because we only know 1% of their story, I’m sure you’ve heard, ‘we are all bad in someone’s story’.
- You chose to be in a situation-ship with this guy, with both eyes open, heart and mind willing, all the while knowing he’s not going to put in any commitment, and you still blame the entire world for your own decision?
- Have you ever ask yourself, did you listen to your heart or your mind? All the red flags was there but your heart rules over your mind. Nvm , life is such, stand up again and rebuilt your life much stronger than before… Jaiyu