Advice needed
Genuine post looking for advice, no bashing please. My wife and I are in our mid to late thirties with 2 kids, a preschooler and toddler. I am working (~70hrs a week) whilst my wife has quit her job to look after her kids. We have a full-time helper. My wife would often complain that she gets little support from me around the house. I try to help/spend time with the kids when possible but it’d be fair to say my wife manages the kids the large majority of the time.
Whilst there is no doubt about the importance of a father in a child’s upbringing and spending time with the kids is enjoyable, I find it tiring that she believes she lacks support from her hubby and therefore lacks time for anything else. Looking to see if I should change my perspective. Thank you.
Here are what netizens think:
- I don’t understand the people here. His wife is not working and has a full time maid. I think the husband has the right to rest as he does his part by bringing the dough. What the husband can do is, AT LEAST just spend half an hour with children everyday (no hps) and half hour for wife alone. If he can spend more time, all the better. But he needs to come back home to feel safe and relaxed.
- Husband working 70hrs a week , have a full time maid and the wife just doing the rest. Wow!! Wonder what else you can do after work after working 70hrs a week, which is to rest ! (70hrs is like working close to 12hrs a day for 6 days) You wife should join hand with you to take care of the family financials , so you can work lesser hours instead of 70hrs a week.
- It make sense that as she is not working and got maid to help her take care of things. She took care of the kids,the maid took care of house chores and you took care of the finance for everything. Isnt that fair and square? But then if you dont spend time with kids, please do even if its a short time. They need to know that you also care for them besides ur wife. About house chores daily cannot la, you work 12hrs already sure go back tired and have little time. Maybe on ur rest days just spend abit of ur time to help out or bring ur family out. But if ur tired and need that off day to have enough rest, she needs to understand. Have a conversation with her