I’m a Malaysian girl in my late twenties and I’m here to share my story of why I decided to cheat on my Malaysian husband with a Singaporean guy. It’s not something I’m proud of, but I’m trying to be honest and open here.
My husband and I have been married for five years now, and while I still love him, I can’t deny that it’s been a rocky relationship. I look back now and realise that I probably shouldn’t have married him in the first place; we were too different, and had different expectations about life.
He was a bad husband; he was never kind to me and he never provided for us financially.
He wasn’t the kind of man I wanted. He was lazy, never had any ambition, and was content to stay in the same job and same house for years on end. He was also a compulsive gambler, a heavy drinker, and had a long-standing problem with drugs.
The more I looked at him, the more I realised that this was not the life I wanted. I wanted someone who was ambitious, who was passionate, and who wanted to do things with his life. I wanted someone I could look up to and admire, someone who could make me proud.
So after five years, I decided to make a change.
I met a Singaporean guy who was everything my husband wasn’t. He was ambitious, hardworking, and had big dreams. He was passionate about life, and he inspired me to be better. I felt like we had a real connection, and I felt alive when I was with him.
I knew it was wrong to cheat on my husband, but I couldn’t help it. I was so in love with this Singaporean guy that I decided to take a chance and pursue a relationship with him.
It wasn’t easy, and it caused a lot of pain and heartache for everyone involved. But in the end, I’m glad I did it. I’m now with the man of my dreams, and I’m sure that if I had stayed with my Malaysian husband, I would have been miserable.
Good bye ‘Loser’
I’m not trying to justify my actions. I was wrong for cheating, and I’m sorry for the hurt I caused. But I’m also thankful for the courage I had to make a change in my life, and for the love I found with the Singaporean guy.
A lot of my friends who came to Singapore to work also realised how different or better the guys are in Singapore compared to those back home.
My message to other Malaysian girls out there is this: don’t settle for a man who doesn’t make you happy. You deserve to be with someone who loves you and who will make you a better person. Don’t be afraid to take a chance and explore the possibilities. Life is too short to stay stuck in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy.