The other night, my wife met up for drinks with both a current and ex colleague , who are somewhat close guy friends (call them Andrew and Matthew). I didn’t think much of it as this was nothing out of the ordinary. In fact, she even invited to come by towards the end, but I’ve been busy with work etc. so I declined.
Time goes by and I realize it’s been a few hours… OK, she’s catching up with an old coworker, whatever. Finally she calls and tells me she’s coming home. She comes across as a bit loopy and I eventually suggest maybe she’s a bit drunker than she’s letting on.
she comes in and she’s being pretty unreasonable and rude; I try to make it better but to no avail. Eventually, we’re just lying in bed and she’s clearly texting nonstop (to who, I have no idea, yet). She falls asleep and I get to thinking… why is she so, well, bitchy, to me, and apparently the rest of the world is so interesting? She likes her social media, but it was abnormal to see her fingers fly all over the place versus scrolling and occasionally liking/responding/sharing/whatever.
To preface this, we’ve both agreed that we can both look at each other’s phones whenever. We know each other’s passwords and have each other’s fingerprints stored in the other’s phone. Overall her behaviour that night was pretty odd: staying out later than normal, trying to hide her inebriation, being rude when she gets home, and messaging so much. So now my curiosity is piqued, and I grab her phone. You can probably guess that I don’t like what I find. Two chains of texts in particular:
1) Some guy from an even older job talking about how he wished he had a blacklight when he “jizzed on her back”. The conversation seemed to be full of inside jokes and memes, of which I couldn’t quite follow, but mentioned orgasms and such.
Her old-but-more-recent coworker Andrew, about Matt. She deleted it before I/we could look later, but I know for sure I saw the following. Somewhat paraphrasing but this is definitely close:
a) “I would do nasty things to that man if it weren’t for boundaries”
b) “I shouldn’t have a crush like this, I’m a woman who’s almost 30”
c) “Please don’t tell him I love him”
d) “I hope I looked cute enough for him tonight”
The argument got crazy and she finally admit she has been sleeping around with multiple guys for many years. I recorded the conversation secretly. I don’t wanna get any diseases.
Can anyone advise the prices of divorce in Singapore, I already managed to restores the messages and I have collected enough evidence.