My husband asked me why I lock the car door when I’m sitting in the car.
My first instinct was to respond with ‘you wouldn’t understand.’ Instead I tried to explain to him that as a woman, we are taught to always lock the door behind us.
My husband has a problem with locking doors. It’s been a constant issue. He forgets to lock the front door, the car door, windows, etc.
It has contributed a huge part to my anxiety. Luckily I made him buy an electronic door lock that automatically locks our front door and I just shoulder the extra work to double check if the porch door is locked.
I’ve given up on the car. If someone breaks in then maybe he’ll learn or maybe not, but either way I’ve decided to preemptively and radically accept it, if that were to ever happen. Let’s hope not.
In the end, I explained to him that he was never taught to be wary or cautious because he was a boy. I told him that a big part of my anxiety is caused by his lack of caution.
That it’s the reason why I constantly used to ask him if the doors and windows were locked, even though it annoyed him. To him it was me overreacting, but to me it was just common sense.
He’s a wonderful partner and has been taking great strides to be more receptive. Hopefully now he’ll understand why I feel safer with the door locked.
Netizens’ comments
- I thought it was common sense to lock your car door regardless of gender.
One time I had a prostitute try to get into my car.