GF’s international family have said that they’ll never accept our relationship, even though they’ve never met me. Looking for advice
My partner and I met in Feb 2020, right as the pandemic was kicking off. We instantly clicked – we had so much in common, it just felt natural. We spent our lockdown pretty much living together, in a new relationship, and everything was perfect. We knew it was meant to be really quick.
Partner had to return to her home country in August 2020 for a wedding, and the border closed behind her. We have been trying to get her back ever since while continuing our relationship long distance. Not even distance could get in the way – we are still completely obsessed with each other and are absolutely adamant that we want to spend our lives together. It’s been 506 days and counting long distances.
Last week, we finally got her flight booked to return. However, today I randomly got a message from her brother (I’ve never really spoken directly to her family due to the language barrier) saying that they will never accept our relationship and that they will never accept a relationship where the partner isn’t from their home country.
GF and I are absolutely adamant that we want to spend our lives together – her family’s approval is obviously incredibly important, but it’s not more important to me than our relationship, and her happiness.
How do I approach this? I’ve made it clear that I’m willing to earn their approval, but they won’t even come to the table. Any and all advice is appreciated.
Here are what netizens think:
- Right now work on your own relationship and being together. Make that your focus for now since you have been apart from each other. You have time to deal with her family. Just work right now getting together and going forward.
- Hey. I grew up in a family where this was the case. My dad’s mother gave him an ultimatum and he went to spend his life w/ his wife (my mom) instead of prioritizing his mother and her wishes. As a result I’ve never met my dad’s side of the family.
- Your best response to this is living well. Become successful and take great care of your partner, and leave them behind you.