A man who just graduated and step out into the workforce was kind enough to offer his parents an allowance despite not making a lot.
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Hence he started asking the internet if it’s wrong for one to not give their parents an allowance.
His Scenario:
I just graduated from uni and started working with a monthly salary of 3k. When I talked to my parents about giving them an allowance (10% of my pay), they rejected my offer with the following reason:
- My earning power isn’t alot. They want me to focus on saving up for myself first.
- Both of my parents are still working. Their salary and savings are more than enough for them to retire. Hence, they don’t see a need for me to give them allowance.
However, after looking through online forums, this seems like a unfilial thing to do. What are your opinions on this?
Here are what netizens think:
- Your parents have already told you what you wanted to know. When you’re earning more, then they’ll probably be more open to taking the allowance. If your parents have already told you, you don’t have to care whether it’s unfilial (from the pov of others) or not, people’s tongues will always wag.
- Its their choice. If they dont need it – dont give. Alternatively take them out for dinners, give them gifts
- You’ve got good parents. Don’t feel guilty please, you have the rest of your life to be good to them.
- This. If your parents don’t want to take your allowance, then they don’t care for it. Meeting them, having a meal with them, or going on holidays with them would be more valued by them than allowance.
- Your parents seem like the really understanding sort. As others may have said, you can certainly express your gratitude to them via other means in all the other little things — help them with housework (if you’re still living with them), volunteer to get lunch/dinner for them, buy the occasional household appliances for them if there is a need. In my experience, parents usually won’t mind us doing that.