How do i stop being afraid of sleeping with women.
I’m a 21-year-old loser man and so far only slept with escorts for the sake of getting experience (which was terrible) and also i have never kissed.
Even if i will be able to get a girl one day, i am terrified of being “exposed” as someone with a lack of both experience and skill.
Not only that, i feel like the sleeping around thing overall is just such an anxiety inducting activity. Its supposed to be natural and super fun right?
Where is the enjoyment when as a man u constantly have to perform? Whether kissing, eating her out, or fingering, you have to perform. Do it right, long enough, not for too long.
Then you start f-ing and guess what, u need to last long but not too long, u need to know what you are doing as well and also it can be hard physically (from my experience with escorts, as someone that is in overall good shape). I wont even mention thinking if im looking good while performing.
Honestly even if i could make girl interested in me, its possible that i would bail out because of that fear of embarrassment.
Netizens’ comments
- You need to perform if you are sleeping around with people, because those people will assume you know what you are doing. that is not a romantic context though.
- Think of sleeping with a woman as being like having a conversation between two people. I think of it as exploring someone else’s body free of clothes. No one expects you to be good out of the gate. In my experience, it’s better to be new at it with every woman. Every woman in my experience is different. Some like it rough while others like it slow and gentle. What you watch is an over exaggeration of what really happens. My experiences have lasted hours. Above all do it with someone you love and enjoy. The other way is much worse and you feel empty inside
- No one starts off being good in bed and know how to do everything perfectly for every woman. Your aniexty is kinda your problem and you have to figure out a way to get past that.