My girlfriend and I are contemplating marriage next year. She comes from a well-off family and actively contributes to managing their family businesses.
She envisions me as a househusband, taking care of the children and residing with her extended family. Furthermore, her father has proposed that our first two children bear his surname. My parents are against the marriage, believing it implies I’m marrying into her family.
Despite my reservations, my girlfriend is determined to adhere to her father’s ideas. Although I deeply love her, this situation has strained my relationship with my parents to the point where we are not speaking.
They have even thrown my clothes out of the wardrobe, insisting that I leave. I’m torn about whether to marry her or heed my parents’ advice to seek a partner from a more modest background.
Here are what netizens think:
- I’m not sure if this helps at all. But your life is not going to be easy after marriage. You have to dance to their music and do everything they tell you to do. Basically they will treat you like an employee. I’m not sure about the culture about surnames so I’m not going to comment on that. And this maybe good or bad advice. But if it was up to me I’d listen to my parents. They always have your interest when they advice you. And if your marriage does not work out for some reason. You’ll have to crawl back to your parents house which I’m not sure if you will be able to.
- In life you cant have everything. You win some and u lose some . Its for you to figure out yourself. If you want a comfortable life but you have no freedom and control over your marriage , than you may proceed . Otherwise , take a step back.
- Lol the men on this thread. No wonder SG birthrate so low.
- Get money give honey lah, get more then chow. Just ask how much per month