My ex-boyfriend broke up with me after 4 years of our relationship.
The reason is our relationship is no longer ‘exciting’. We talked about getting married, building a family together, and even meeting each other’s families.
Everything seemed to be set and going well until suddenly one day we argued that he has changed over the years and so have I. As working adults, we don’t have much time for each other except after work or the weekends. At some point, the frequency of meetings has reduced although we still call each other every day. The effort was diminishing and so was our love.
Shortly after our breakup, he became aggressive about meeting new girls, chatted with them, and met up with a new one every week. 2 months after we broke up, he met this girl and posted an official couple photo on his Instagram and Facebook a month later to announce that he is now a taken man. I heard from my friends that he said the new girl isn’t good-looking in a sort of tentative manner.
Which I feel is not something nice and should be said about someone you are planning to date. My heart is torn into a million pieces and I can barely move on from such a heartless man.
Some advice would be appreciated and maybe I am not seeing my ex for the person he is. Possibly, as an outsider a more objective POV could be provided on his character and whether or not it is time for me to truly let go of him…
Here are what netizens think:
- cannot understand why you need to follow him on social media and from friends. both of you are no longer together why hack care about what he is doing? what kind of person he is, is none of your business. you should be happy that the relationship has ended since love has gone, but why refused to let go? why acted like a victim? when there is no victim here, he only started chasing girls after the breakup what is wrong with that? he didn’t cheated on you during your relationship. only you can help yourself.
- From a guy’s standpoint, I don’t think he’s heartless. In my opinion, he’s a realistic man – he doesn’t wallow in self-pity and wants to find his next dream girl asap. And to the OP, do yourself a favor and stop stalking him. Unfriend him if you have to, so you don’t trap yourself in a cycle of depression. He has moved on. And you need time to recuperate emotionally… and you WILL find a more suitable guy. Jia you!
- You still gotta move on ma. If you think he is wallowing in self-pity like you, think again. Have happier days la. Come on. Hugs.
- Imagine if you get married and he now lost the feelings and look for another “exciting” relationship. This guy doesn’t know anything about real relationships