Need relationship advice????
We have been in a relationship for almost 4years.
So my bf has a girl bestie he knew frm gaming, he already quited gaming since 2022. Thy don’t usually contact until she broke up with her bf in 2022. The girl doesn’t really have much friend and kinda negative/emo. So since she move out from her bf hse, she rented a hse nearby my bf house because it is near to public transport. She dont drive.
So whenever she need to rant or smoke buddy, she will ask my bf to go over her hse. Initially, I was like ok, she just broke up, u can go and console or be her listener. Bt then now already year end of 2023, she will still ask my bf to go for smoke/chat/ranting. I started to feel uncomfortable and voice out like why are you always available to girl whenever thy need ranting? I understand if thy don’t really communicate alot, something happened, and she need someone to talk to, but not like every month or every few month right? I really dont understand why sometimes the girls keep asking someone’s bf for ranting or like hangout eventho she know he have a gf.
So my bf reasoning was she doesn’t have much frn. In my mind i was thinking, he asked me to stop chatting with one of my guy colleague or even eat with him. His reasoning was he feel uncomfortable of that guy. So now i feel uncomfortable bcz of this, bt he keep saying that they are just brother/friend. He have to be there for her to rant. I don’t smoke, so usually he will smoke far away from me or whenever he is in the office with his colleague.
Anyway, idk what I’m saying anymore. Am i too insecure or my feelings is valid? Girls out thr, pls let me know ????
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