My BF won’t sleep with me anymore bc my I’m not tight.
Any advice helps. My boyfriend (M22) and I (F20) have been in a relationship for 1 & 1/2 years. The beginning of our relationship was perfect, we made plans, went out on dates, & spent most of our free time together.
We both have a very high libido which worked well. The only issue begin since the start of our relationship he has only eaten me out once.
We have discussed it but he has never given me a real answer. However that is not the main problem or point of this post.
Around 3-4 months ago my boyfriend sat me down to have a serious talk regarding our relationship. He complained that i was no longer as tight as i used to be & suggested I use kegels or “squeezing him tighter”.
He also mentioned that I don’t dirty talk him, along with a few other things. When he said this I was heartbroken, I literally didn’t know what to say.
I lied to him and say it was okay and I would try to make things better for him in bed. And after that I really did attempt to make things better. I basically did anything he asked (consenting of course) because I felt I had to prove myself.
Recently about 2 months ago we just stopped f-ing ompletely, besides one exception which was not satisfying for either of us, just very uncomfortable & awkward.
He couldn’t stay hard & I just wanted to stop. I have no confidence anymore, but the problem is I’m always unbelievablely in the mood.
I’m very frustrated, and having a high drive isn’t making it easier. nothing seems to keep me from thinking about f-ing.
Another things is I’m very nervous of initiating intimacy. I can try if I get the sense my partner is in the mood as well, but with no reciprocations is feels way to awkward.
Because of this I have been going to bed every night disappointed and almost crying because we have done nothing. He teases me all the time but never follows through.
I’m done emotionally and I don’t know how to explain my feelings in a productive way, I just want to yell at him to f me. I dont want to break up but i dont know what to do. I just would like advice on my whole situation.