Long distance relationship
I am having a long term relationship with a guy of different culture and nationality. It’s been a few years now and he proposed recently. He moved on to another country to work so that he can save up for our wedding.
Recently, he became more cold and distant. Messages are just good morning and good night on working days and on non working days it can be no news and no sound from him.
We have always been very open to freedom and making friends with no restrictions over each other, especially when he is away from home and in other country, friends are really important.
We are not control freaks too but the amount of freedom we gave each other is getting quite imbalance.
He always spend time talking with friends and when we talk, it’s just 5 mins. Texts is a one to two words reply. Questions like how are you doing or giving him opinions mostly were read and unresponsive.
I am tired of trying to communicate with him so most of the time I keep quiet.
Till recently, I was unhappy that he says he is unwell and went to sleep early but his female friends tag him on social media with screenshots of them video calling till after midnight( he says he slept at 8am).
I ask him about it and he says it is rude to stalk him and mind him talking with his friends.I didn’t even stalk him, the post just pop up but he says it cannot be and ask me don’t lied when he is lying.
2nd occasion, it happened that I saw a meaning quote on social media and share it. He got sensitive and says if I am trying to hint him something? Anything can just tell him, don’t need to be attention seeking!
I was like what? It is not even what I mean.
So, I decides to stay away from social media and stop posting anything. I thought this will do good for him, yet, he pick up another argument and says I am petty as I didn’t post anything anymore, asking me to grow up!
My patience have reach to a new high this time.
When I try talking to him, he doesn’t bother. When I stop asking, he says I am petty.
What he want me to do? When his friends talks to him, he can spend hours with them, when they post something he always find it interesting, why they post something to scold people he says they need to vent their frustrations but when it’s me who do these I am a loser.
I am beginning to be quite sick of his behaviour and also lost faith in the suppose marriage.
Have tried to explain myself and talk to him, but he doesn’t response.
I really don’t know what to do. Shall I just give up all together?
I am in my early 40s and before anyone judge, we knew each other while working together. We are not couples from online long distance type of relationship.