MAN LAST TIME USE TO GO “FIND CHICKENS” TO POK POK, ASK IF HE SHOULD TELL HIS GF ABOUT IT

Can you accept a guy that ever visited escorts?

Recently, my best friend met someone he is truly in love with. The friend is not me lol it’s a genuine situation that I felt it’s tricky when he approached me for advice.

He met her on a dating app and things went smoothly for both of them. In the past, he ever visited escorts as he was lonely. Presently, he is clean after taking his STD tests.

He asked me should he share that he ever visited escorts to her for full transparency but risk losing the relationship or avoid the situation at all cost?

I told him a relationship is built on complete honesty and trust, but I might be wrong because I have seen happy relationships built with some white lies to avoid hurting the other person.

I shared both perspectives. I am not sure if I did the right thing by offering an alternative view which might be malicious. What do you think ?

Netizens’ comments

1. I would ask – what kind of relationship does he want with this girl? Is it one in which he can share anything and everything safely and also have his past accepted by her? If that is the case, then sharing his past is the right thing to do. If she then decides that she cannot accept his past then I think they should not continue
2. Every girl will have a different comfort level about this, and it also depends on what positive characteristics the guy can offer in the long term future of the relationship.
   Ultimately, it’s better to be upfront earlier than come clean later. If the girl only finds out 5 years later and this is important for her to know, then she would feel even more cheated.
   At the same time, only share when he feels the relationship is getting serious and they’ve reached an assuring level of trust and vulnerability in the relationship.
   If they can’t see eye to eye about it, perhaps some of their values may not be aligned anyway, and it’s better to call it off earlier.
3. If his std is clear and he isn’t still going I feel don’t have to pressure him to say. His past is his to share whether he want to is his problem. Conversely the girl also don’t have to list out every of her past experience to him