boyfriend cheated with a hooker
I’ve been dating A(46) for 3.5 years. I’m 34 (yes there is an age gap, I never thought it was an issue). I own my own home, I have a high paying job, multiple degrees, I’m not stupid. At least I thought I wasn’t.
I’ve been traveling for work a lot lately and this weekend I went out of town to see some friends and do some community stuff with my alma mater. I got back Sunday and every thing was fine. Today he went to dinner with family and left his phone. I’m not proud of this but I snooped and found out he hired a hooker for the weekend, for a grand.
I confronted him when he got home and he didn’t have a good excuse except he’s been working a lot, stressed, drunk and I was gone. The thing is, he’s been avoiding intimacy with me for a year and he finally admitted that he doesn’t find me attractive, I’m pretty but not physically his type. I’m overweight and losing weight is hard due to hormonal issues. He swears he feels horrible and doesn’t want to split but idk what to do.
Im devistated. He’s been my rock from day one since my divorce from my ex husband. He’s been my best friend and I’m just thrown for a loop. If it wasn’t me in my shoes I’d be the first one to say GTFO. I keep thinking ‘why would he do this??’.
He’s not willing to see a therapist and I kicked him out for the night but I’m just lost. I thought he was the one I was going to end up with.