I have a story to share.
This story is about me and a girl that I met on Tinder last year around May. She goes by her pen name as she likes to write life quotes on her Instagram.
During the time when we were dating, everything went very smoothly, we loved and cared for each other, there was like really no arguments between us, everything is just seem very amicable, we even plan and bought tickets for a trip overseas in January even though we just started dating. In addition, I actually wanted to have an official relationship with her but due to some circumstances from her side, I can’t be in a relationship with her.
However, things suddenly fall apart on a particular day, that day was a Sunday, we went for brunch and then to Hort Park for a walk and lastly went to Vivo to walk around before going back. At night, she sent me a whatapps message saying that she had a very important thing to discuss with me, she asked me is it possible if we become friends and go for the overseas trip as friends, but she mentioned she is still in love with me. I was devastated at that moment but kept my calm and assure her that we can be friends but we need to meet up again to sort of put this chapter as a closure.
During the meet up, she told me the reason that she decided to split this relationship is because she feels a bit choked and feel guilty that she kept rejecting me when I asked her to meet up during our time together. Furthermore, she also said she do not want to be in any official relationship with anyone within this few years. Due to her circumstances, I can understand why she said that even though I know I have compromised a lot during the relationship. For example, there were times she cancel our meet up at the last minute, and I did not even scold her. I just told her it is okay we can meet up again next week or something. This was one of the many things that I have compromised with her.
Fast forward to after the trip in January (Yes we did went for the trip as friends). A week after the trip, I saw her changed her profile on her tinder. We were still matched on tinder when we were together as she told me she didn’t want to delete it and told me to trust her. That day I was supposed to submit my FYP interim report, after seeing the changes in her profile, I was shivering while I confronted her. During the confrontation, she told me at first that she was keeping her options open. I was like WHAT!!! doesn’t that mean that she was keeping her options open to find new guys. Then she told me she was keeping her options open to find new friends. I continue to confront her until she ended up blocking me after I said some unpleasant stuff to her because I was really really hurt. After which I sent a lot of emails to apologize to her as she blocked me everywhere even on social media. She sent back some emails but the last email really hurt me the most, when I asked her why is she not thinking about our wonderful relationship in the past and just let the whole relationship end, she said to be honest she did not think about that before and told me that we have to stop everything and to not email her anymore.
After I told my family and my friends of the whole saga, they told me I was stupid enough to have apologized to her and that she is just making an excuse saying that she is on tinder just to look for friends. After which, I did not sent her any emails anymore and decided it is time to really moved on.
I’m really thankful and grateful to have such loving people around me encouraging me to move on. I’m very sorry that this is a long post, but I just want to share these things to you good people of NUSWhispers. Please feel free to share any opinions you all have. I will read everyone single one of them.
I am very happy to have met you. I have gained tremendous amount of experience being with you. And tbh, it was really one of the best relationship I ever have although sadly we have to end like that. I wish you good luck in your future endeavors.
Cheers to all!! And be happy always!!