I’m a female and is just like you. My ex dumped me 12 years back and claimed that he’s just toying with me and all that we have went thru in the whole year was merely a bet he made with his peers.
His family were nice to me during our courtship and I missed him terribly for years even after being dumped by him, as he was the only one I thought I could connect with intellectually and we could have a great future together. I controlled myself well and did not try to get connected with him after stabilising my emotions thereafter.
Couple of years later, I got married to my husband who loves me more than himself and I will not hurt him in any way. At times, I still look at my ex’s photo to relieve the memories, but I do not dare to connect with him as I do not wish to have any unwanted misunderstandings.
I still have many questions for him but because of my status now, I’ve decided to bury all in my heart. In your case, if circumstances permit, u may wish to reach out to him/her to get a closure if there was unfinished business. Wishing you all the best.
Here are what netizens think:
- Eh ppl shouldn’t mourn and grieve their ex longer than the time of their relationship. Eg. If you have only been with him a year, you shouldn’t still be missing him after 12 years. That’s… really waste of time and energy. don’t romanticise the memories and make it greater than it ever was. It’s just a guy who don’t like you and moved on. You should be doing the same.
- If someone already told you the reason believe it. Do not create questions in your head..You cannot live in the past..Men are simple minded so if he said it was a bet then believe it. It is what it is..There was closure. You just did not accept it as closure because the reason is painful.
There is no question. To him you are just convinient s3x. There is no human able to dump 12 years relationship like that. We are not even do it for a dog lmao.You are just his s3x object so be grateful with your current husband