I’m having some problems with intimacy in my marriage.
We’ve been married for 6 years and they’ve been some of the happiest years of my life. My wife had 3 children before we got together and we have a child together. All I’ve ever wanted was a family and I’ve been so lucky to have been blessed with that.
But we had a break up 3 years ago due to me not listening to her enough and getting in arguments, but we got back together.
We’ve always been very affectionate towards each other since the start of our relationship, but lately we’ve been less so. I’m a massive worrier and have found myself under a lot of pressure and stress lately due to work and money. We hardly have any time together on our own as it’s a busy household, but we make time to go on date nights/days.
A few weeks ago my wife said that we need to work on our relationship and be more intimate which I agreed with. A few days ago, she suggested that we have more S and whilst I wanted to, our son was still awake at the time. After we put him to bed, I was very tired as I have not been sleeping well for the last few weeks due to stress and anxiety. She then got upset and slept downstairs on the sofa. In the morning she said that she’s no longer attracted to me, doesn’t want to have S with me anymore.
After our last break up and how much it upset our children, she said that she wanted an open relationship as she needs to intimate with someone. I suggested talking about it which she said she doesn’t want to do as her points still stand.
I’m really upset and struggling today to understand why she doesn’t want to talk about it to see if we can work on the intimacy side of our marriage. I don’t see how an open relationship is going to work out for us as we have never been unfaithful to each other.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post.