What should I do with my boyfriend who is obsessed with his dogs?
My boyfriend owns 3 dogs and we have been dating for close to a year. I was initially very drawn to his kind and caring nature and his love for animals.
When we first got tgt, the dogs brought fun and laughter into the rs and it was all nice and fun to play with them.
As time progresses, idk is it bc the honeymoon period has faded but it seems his dogs have taken a priority more than me.
A few times, he cancelled dates at the last minute as the dogs needed his attention. When we spend time tgt at his place, I was expected to help him to clean, feed and walk the dogs etc.
Even when we are out, he’ll ask his family to take live videos of his dogs every now and then to see if they are ok.
At times, he replied my msgs very late as he claimed he has to spend time with them. He has said that he will not give up on his dogs even if he were to settle down and have a family and he spends more than 1/2 of his take home pay on them.
I’m not a pet owner myself so I don’t understand if such behavior is common. I’m not really happy but I’m unsure how to approach this. I dw to force him to choose between me and his dogs.
Netizens’ comments
- if you love him, you should love his pets as well… having pets are like having babies/kids. They’re a priority as they’re considered his family. If you leave him, his dogs won’t… until death do they part. When you have a pet you will understand.
- He got his dogs way before he knew you, so for now, you will not be prioritize above his dogs. Besides, what he is doing is just a habit to him, you simply found that out later in the r/s.
What you really need to do is ask yourself this:- If this is who he is and there is no way you can change him, are you willing to spend your life with him?If your answer is yes, then you will have to tolerate his obession for his dogs, because that is who he is and that is the man you fell for.
As for you, you should learn to understand why your guy love his dogs so much and also learn to love what he love. That’s the best way to approach this r/s.Your guy is a good guy. At least, his obsession to dogs shows me he is a responsible person.