Hey, so my friend and I were talking during a lecture. You know, whispering. Since it’s my second time taking the course, I talked a bit more than usual but tried not to bother anyone.
My vision is bad so I always sit really close to the professor so that I can understand the presentation. I sit in the 3rd row and for some reason, everybody else resorts to rows 7 and further up. That’s usually at my uni.
At the break of the lecture, my friend and I just start talking at usual speaking volume.
All of a sudden, a guy really aggressively storms down, focuses completely on me, less on my friend (23, m), and starts yelling: “Shut your F Mouth, you two! People can hear you up to the last row, it’s really not bearable, shut the f up!!!”
And I responded that we didn’t mean to bother anyone, but I couldn’t help but ask why he couldn’t have said that in a friendly manner.
I surely didn’t bother him on purpose, I was simply unaware that my talking was bothering people more than the other people’s occasional talking. I have also been bothered by people’s conversations before but I approach and ask kindly if they could try keeping it down a bit more.
The guy responds: “because you guys have already been bothering me last week!!” So I asked: “Then why didn’t you come and tell us kindly last week?”
And he responded: “Because I wanted to be friendly! For real though, shut the F up!” He seemed very intimidating. My friend and I would have been quiet had somebody told us we were bothersome sooner. We didn’t mean to disturb others. The guy leaves up to his seat (3 rows behind us, not in the last row at all) and the story is over.
I understand I did something wrong and it was never my intention to bother the man, but I fail to understand how it was ok to explode at us like that. 200 other people are still present in the lecture hall.
He was way louder than the entire lecture or people taking a break had been. I have never seen him, met him nor talked to him before. Am I in the wrong for talking and getting upset that I was yelled at?