My mother (43F) is upset by the way my girlfriend greeted her. Im really confused as to why this upset her so much,need advice.
This happened today. My girlfriend (19F) texted me that she was nearby and i was prepared to greet her and walk along since she was going the same way knowing it would be a bit awkward with my mom (conversation wise you know how it is).
My mom however told me to go ahead and greet her and that she would be waiting at the end of the street. It turns out she was going near the shop we were going so i told her we would catch up with my mom and walk together.
We met our mutual friend (19M) along the way and were just walking.
We met my mother at an intersection and my girlfriend was walking up while smiling at her. We stood next to eachother for a minute then my friend shook my moms hand and my gf proceeded to do the same with another smile.
I thought nothing of it but my mom just suddenly said that shed be going home instead.
I insisted on her staying since my gf would be going to her own plans in like 5 minutes of walking.
She just said it again and went home and i just thought she didnt want to make anything awkward and told me to check the shoes and call her about it.
After like 20 minutes i finished everything and went home only for her to rage out.
She said nothing was my fault but she feels highly disrespected by my girlfriend because she didnt say “Good day” she just shook her hand (note: in my country and in our language it is concidered a polite way of greeting someones parent or someone in general).
She also says that she only did it when my friend did it first. (Which she did but she greeted her normally and all i think she would have done it anyways)
She said that my gf was looking at her “from above” as in that she thinks shes below her and that i shouldnt mention her to her again and that she felt extremely disrespected. My girlfriend isnt like that and i know she doesnt look at anyone in any way but she wont listen to me.
From my pov it just looked like a normal smiling handshake they both looked normal and all. I didnt expect it to escalate to something like this.
What should i do? Is this considered my girlfriend being rude?