My mom and dad have been separated for years now, and only just got their divorce settled last December. My mom is dating this guy, who we’ll call Joe. Joe’s a nice guy, but there are aspects that me and my younger sister don’t like about him. He tries to not include us in things, and will straight up tell us our opinions don’t matter in certain subjects. He acts like he runs the house. He and my mom have been together for 2 years.
My dad is still close with my mom’s side of the family and messages them every so often because they have known each other so long. My dad is my cousin’s Godfather and even when my parents were separated, he would still attend parties for my cousin because of the relationship they had.
But this year was different. My mom and dad are good co-parents and don’t hate each other as some divorced parents do. But they did get into an argument a few weeks before my cousin’s birthday. My aunt, told my mom to invite my dad and she said she would.
The day before the party i ask my dad when he is driving up to my aunts house for the party. He told me he received no invite and didn’t want to just show up, but did want to go. He gave me a card with money to give to my cousin and i ended up going with my mom to the party.
I asked my mom a few days later why she did not invite my dad. She said she was angry at him for whatever argument they got into, she also said that her boyfriend Joe would not be comfortable with him there too.
I lashed out at her infront of Joe and told her that it was petty and rude of her to not invite my dad even though he WAS invited by my cousin’s mom and he is his godson and deserved to go. I then turned to Joe and told him if he had a problem he could have left because my dad was my cousin’s godfather and my cousin would never have a relationship or call Joe anything other than his name. (like uncle joe as he calls my dad uncle)
My mom was furious with me and demanded i apologize to her boyfriend. She said my dad is not a part of the family and they have to do things separate. I think she’s in the wrong, My cousin and aunt wanted him there and he is still a part of their family.
Am I wrong or was it my mom?