I’ve been talking to a colleague for a while and he was an overall good guy to me. He has been saying that he wants to have S for a couple of weeks or so and he’s been respectful by not making me feel pressured or obligated because I am a V.
He said he wanted to chat before anything actually happens and yesterday we finally got to chat.
During the talk he says that he does not want a relationship (fine I guess) then the matter of birth control comes up and I tell him not on any. The first thing he ends up saying is “looks like it’s time for someone to get the injection” while he’s basically laughing. My first question to that is what about rubber. He says rubbers are a no for him.
Obviously, pregnancy is not my only concern here. I don’t know if he’s clean and he doesn’t know if I’m clean yet still he is ready to go rubber free while trying to tell me what to do with my body. His explanation is that there is no male birth control.
Now all that is replaying in my head is that this person cares more about their comfort over the health of both of us and he knows I already have health issues and I truthfully can’t manage any more at this point. I feel even if we both were to get full panels and he was to agree to the rubber but it’s still a no go for me.
I know I’m clean because of my pre-existing health conditions my doctor’s run the gamut every year…just in case someone wants to tell me I should know my status regardless of whatever.