My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We have our issues about each other, but accept them for the most part. That is, until we bought our condominium together.
Our loan instalment comes out to 2900$ a month. He makes 95k a year while I make 42k in comparison. However, he insists we pay the instalment as evenly as possible (1370 and 1180 a month respectively) because his argument is that we share an equal amount of space so we should pay the same amount. This transcends into us splitting costs (bedding, meals, bills) equally.
Before you assume I’m a gold digger and I do not pull my weight, we eat almost all our dinners and weekend meals together, and because we eat out so much, it comes out to $500 in purely food expenses for me.
He doesn’t want to cook any of the meals and even though I make my lunch and breakfasts consistently at home, we go to mid-end restaurants every time we are together.
I make about 2300 per month after the deductions. However, after utilities, ezlinkcard (I don’t own a car and travel extensively throughout the day for my job), my gym membership, instalment, food, internet, and all the other finances of life, I am barely breaking even while he puts away half of his paycheck into his retirement account.
Our weekend activities are not cheap either.
Museums, trinkets, travelling, it all adds up and when he pulls out his wallet to pay and I don’t take it instead, he gets upset with me that I don’t try to pay him back.
When I confronted him about my budget and spending, he said I just have to manage my money better. He doesn’t take me seriously or my concerns, and I am so fed up.
I still love him, but I cannot do this anymore. Am I wrong to not want to pay about the same for the instalment? Is he in the right?