My husband hit me for interrupting his video game
My husband is usually gone working, at the gym, or out with his friends. When he comes home, he goes straight to playing video games.
I understand he wants to relax. I bring him dinner, drinks, whatever he asks me for. In the morning I bring him coffee and breakfast. I take care of his laundry and everything. He provides a good lifestyle for me and our child and I like doing nice things for him. But I feel neglected by him. I feel like there’s a hole inside of me. All I want is a little emotional connection and affection.
We rarely spend any time together. He doesn’t talk to me about anything. He’s not mean but he is distant and cold. He is very indifferent toward our son and barely looks at him.
He doesn’t kiss me or comfort me unless he wants to sleep with me. Is this normal? I let him even when I don’t feel like it because I savor what closeness I can get from him. It sounds so pathetic but I almost cry of happiness and I wish it would last forever. When he’s finished, he’s back to disregarding me.
He buys me gifts which tells me he is thinking of me and I do appreciate them. But if I hug him he just puts a stiff arm around me or gives me a quick peck on the cheek.
I’ve wanted to tell him how I feel for a while but I couldn’t find the right words and time. I didn’t want him to think I didn’t love him.
He was playing a game last night. I brought him a drink he didn’t ask for as an excuse to see him. He said that I look sad and asked what was wrong. It felt good that he noticed for once so my feelings slipped out.
He said “I’m focusing right now, I’ll talk to you later.”
I rolled my eyes and muttered “sure you will”. He put his controller down, came over to me and hit me with the back of his hand. It was so forceful I stumbled and he steadied me.
He said “there’s your attention, don’t interrupt me again”.
This morning he told me that he shouldn’t have hit me so hard. Before he left he told me “I’ll take you somewhere nice soon, I want to see you smile”. He said he loves me. He usually doesn’t say more than “I’ll see you later”.
I feel surreal. My face still aches. I had to get this bruise for him to show me the little softness I want so badly?