Is he stingy?
I wonder if you consider your partner stingy if:
- Pay for
- Outside meals
- Doctor visit
Dont pay for
- Shopping (kid’s growing up stage thing, stroller, walker, high chairs etc)
- Household necessities
- Child necessities (milk powder, diapers etc)
- Helper’s salary
These are just some of the things I remembered… im very confused with my partner’s love language… he told me because I said i can afford so he dont give me allowance for the things that stating above as dont pay…
He earns 3/4 times than me… those i stated as dont pay is a monthly expenses… while those “pay” don’t happen frequently… we dont go out often for meal, needless to say we dont go doctor visit every month too… so basically im the one spending more… i dont know whether he is acting blur or he just being stingy to me… whenever i bring up the issue, ended being gaslighting… i told him to take up helper’s salary as its 20% of my salary but not even 10% of his… but he always reluctant to give, and i have to remind him every month…
im sick of being a “beggar” in this situation, any advise how to deal with this type of person?
Here are what netizens think:
- I guess both of you never sit down to discuss finances together. Some of the earlier people approach is good. What I can say is tell you hubby to do a proper sit down discuss, share the load equally and plan future goals together. It’s not 1 person responsibility to shoulder the entire household expenses. Do a balance sheet up listing assets, loans and monthly bills that need to be clear. Joint account for joint liabilities – diapers, food, helper, Internet, utilities bills goes here. Each can contribute X amount monthly. If he refused, then you need to consider if he is really a husband that you can depend on in crisis.
- Having a bank account with both parties contributing to the account in ratio of payscale?
- Yes, he’s stingy. Make him contribute or start taxing him for things that he use and never pay for.
- Yep. Tell him u going to stop having a maid. If he wants he pays. Maybe he gambling, investing or just super stingy. Tell him the kids are his also, need to share right.