Life already challenging, let’s not make any drama
My bf (40M) and I (36F) are in relationship for 5 months. We have meet each other family, and we are planning to married in near future (we are old already lol).
When we got together, we agree that he will slowly showing me in his socmed. We are not teenager anymore and we know that socmed is not on our priority list. So, basically we were focusing on our relationship, family and work.
But, when he reveal that he is in relationship, dramas start happening. He is empathetic and good at communication. Due to nature to his work, he listen, counsel and helpful.
The latest drama is his ex (A). Seven years ago, they were in relationship for 4 months. Then within this 7 years, he has been in relationship and broke up, twice. There was a time when he tried to reapproach A but not to avail. So basically A has 5+ years to mend the relationship and ignite the spark.
Somehow, A message my bf this month, sharing heartfelt problem that she has, her self proclaimed depression and her lifelong regret. She said she wanted another chance, she regret on what was happened. She said she believe in karma.
She went to mrt station that close to my bf home and wait him there. She send messages daily and then she deleted it.
But, she continue messaging. Her last few attempts:
– Share her diary screen shot to my bf (she wrote her diary, cause my bf didn’t react on story that she depressed).
– She send bunch of messages, then deleted it. Then send another one.
– She unfriend my bf and said that she can’t tahan to see him looks happy. But she still follow him on other socmed.
– After 2 weeks of no reaction from my bf. She send him snippet of movie reels about past regret and the actor said if a guy show you these traits, he is the right one for you.
I brought up this to my bf and he said that A is good person, unlike my ex.
Whilst, she isn’t as naive as what my bf said. She suppose to be mature and wise (already 30+++), but she is scheming and doesn’t have self respect.
In fairness, my bf only become listener. He responded to her message as a neutral listener. He even didn’t offer meet up nor he call her.
My bf keep telling me to focus on us, focus on him. He wasn’t even response to her. And it is true.
I am usually quite chill and easy going. I understand that I can’t control people’s action, and by reacting at her I can jeopardize my own relationship.
I just need to rant and maybe an encouragement that I make good decision by not reacting at all.