My (25f) boyfriend (28m) doesn’t help around the house and I’m thinking of breaking up with him
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years, and living together for 2. He’s a messier person than I am, so I’ve always naturally ended up doing more, but recently (last 6 months) he has gotten way lazier when it comes to helping around the house.
About 6 months ago I offered to completely take over the cooking and shopping, if he paid for groceries, which he agreed to. I noticed after this he wouldn’t help at all with the dishes, so I said to him that I’d take over doing the dishes officially if he did all the washing, which was fine at first, but now he hasn’t done any washing in about a month.
I do the vacuuming, cleaning the bathrooms, just basically everything. I’ve tried talking to him about it, and it gets a little bit better for a day and goes straight back to how it was before.
He doesn’t handle confrontation well, so I’m struggling to find the best way to approach him. I don’t want to be doing this for the rest of my life, and I want to be with someone I could settle down with, so it’s getting to a point where I’m thinking of ending things. I love him a lot, everything else in our relationship is fantastic.
What can I say to him that doesn’t come across as accusatory? Is there hope here or should I cut my losses?