how do i stop having feelings on someone that is not for me?
i have a guy friend. i strongly believed that he is the type that i will never like. totally like a bro. some serious mismatches in values, religion, language, family background etc. retrospectively, maybe i did feel something but i have been suppressing the feeling because i don’t think it is possible.
lately there is a girl pursuing my friend. eventually he will like her, if he hasn’t already, because she is really sweet- the type that guys like. i feel more and more irritated whenever i see any kind of interaction between them. i know i know, who am i to feel anything? i should be happy if my friend finds a girl that loves him. as much as i try to i just don’t feel any happiness.
i will not jeopardise their relationship in any way. i just hope to reduce my own suffering. hoping for advice from everyone.
Here are what netizens think:
- I may be wrong but you seems like a possesive person. Logically understanding you are not in the position to feel the way but have fear losing something you “own” in some way once he has a new relationship. Instead of focusing on the feeling, divert to cultivate a better version of self to feel happy for others.
- Not being true to your own feelings, why regret now when you see someone else potentially getting together with him.
- There is this words BMW best man win. So same apply.. No harm trying if you feel he is not the 2 timing type.
- My opinion is the guy will pay more attention to her instead of you, u dont like him but u feel insecure cause he will put more time on her instead of u