My fiancé (28m) told me(24f)I was ugly during an argument and fat.
We had an argument around Halloween and he said “Yeah well.. You’re ugly and fat af. You let yourself go”
We’ve been together for four years already and engaged for 2 years ( I wanted to get married after I got my degree).
He apologized for it and I haven’t slept with him since. I’ve lost weight since then and now I’m back to my original weight when we first started dating ) My heart is broken still and I do love how I look now but I just can’t seem to get over his comment. Like it’s true that words hurt especially when it’s from someone you love..
I don’t love him like I used to and I hate him actually. I still make his lunches, cook for us, do laundry and clean like if nothing happened. I haven’t even kissed him in weeeeks.. I hate his touch and back away whenever he wants to cuddle.
He swears he just said it out of anger back then but tbh I feel like he really meant it. I can’t quit thinking of it and I think I’m going to move back to my parents house soon.. I just feel sad cause I really thought he was the one. I feel like this isn’t such a big deal for others but as a former fat kid it is.
Even when I was slim I had body issues like I always felt like I was the fat. Maybe I’m the one who needs help but I can’t keep living with him anymore.. I know I’m not the prettiest but I think I’m pretty okay when I get dolled up lol
this is our biggest fight in our 4 years. We truly never fight and we’d enjoy each others company -I am sensitive and I’ve always held grudges -i called his aunt a b word before he called me that but never called her fat or ugly -he’s begged on his knees for forgiveness the next day after our fight
Thank you for all the comments. I’ve decided to move out this weekend while he’s working. I’m packing up most of my stuff tonight and I’m going to look into getting help for my own issues too.