I’m a single dad, my son is 20, as is his wife. His mom has never really been in his life so I truly did the parenting solo. My approach, especially when he got older was that I will give him the freedom to make his own decisions, but, the consequences are his as well.
He met his now wife when they were both barely 19, 6 months later they were married, he said it was fine, he was in love, she was great. He told her she didn’t have to work and, rather than get their own place, they were living in one of his childhood friends’ place, paying him rent.
He lost his job in November. I will say this, it sounds like it was kind of a shitty situation because the manager who hired him quit a month after hiring him, and it sounds like the new manager was looking to clean house, so, they started with him.
He immediately calls me, tells me he’s fired and wants to come home. I thought at that moment that, this was a massive blow to him, and that I’d be a terrible dad to turn him away. I also figured that he would be super motivated to find another job and get out of my place.
In the almost 2 months they’ve lived here, he hasn’t looked for a job, nor has she.From what I gather, they sleep until lunch, then just hang out.
When I bring up jobs and rent, he tells me he just needs a little ” breathing room” or his wife will tell him I need to give him ” time to bounce back”.
Yet, when I ask them to do chores, oh, then it’s ” I can’t do all these chores & job hunt” and with her it’s ” I’ve never done (insert any chore here).
A couple of nights ago, I told them they were going to start paying rent, whether that means he or she take a job they don’t want, I don’t care. He argued it would screw up his resume, her response is just ” I don’t want to”. I said that they can pay me using their savings. They said that wasn’t fair.