Refusing to clean or cook for my mother in law
I (21) am heavily pregnant with twins and have a 2 year old son.
My husband (27) insisted that we have his mom move in with us due to her losing her husband (6 month prior) and older age.
I from the get go was uncomfortable with my mother in law moving in because she is extremely nitpicking and always finds something wrong with the way I do things.
Ever since she moved in with me she been ordering me around like I am her slave and since she is my husband’s mother I been doing my best to please her but no matter what I do I can’t.
She finds some kinda fault with everything I do!!! It gotten so stressful for me that it ends up leaving me in tears. This one time she asked me to cook something which I never ate before but she refused to help me prepare it so the night before I spend all night trying to research it, only for her to take one bite and tell me it’s awful and throw her whole plate out.
With cleaning she’s always watching me telling me that I’m not cleaning right and that she doesn’t understand how her son could marry someone who doesn’t even know how to be a wife.
I just feel like she’s really disrespectful and when I try to ask her to treat me better she’ll go ran to my husband claiming I was the one being disrespectful to her.
She Constantly orders me around asking me to go to the store for her, clean up after her or cook for her only to say I did it horribly.
I’m pregnant and exhausted and can no longer cope with this anymore so I told my mother in law that enough is enough and that I’m no longer doing anything for her until she learns to treat me with respect and whether she likes it or not I’m the mother of her grandson and unborn granddaughters which makes me family.
She started insulting me and told me that women out here don’t know how to respect their elders and she’s disgusted her son choose me.
She ended up calling my husband which of course my husband heard her side of the story and sympathized with his mom without even listening to me.
He’s upsets and thinks I should be putting more effort in mending the relationship with his mom especially because she is still grieving.
But the thing is I brought this to my husband attention enough times and all he did was downplay his mom’s actions and claim that she’s warm up to me soon enough which she hasn’t.